Healthy Anger: The Fire That Liberates
Since we will share about sacred rage and boundaries in my upcoming Breath and Power Retreat (October 2025 near Berlin), I want to invite you to dive into this blog article with me. Here you will learn more about why healthy expression of anger is so important, what happens if you suppress these negatively labeled emotions and ways out of unhealthy spirals of anger and shame.
Sacred Rage: A Fire That Liberates
Most of us were taught that anger is “bad.” Maybe you learned that anger makes you too much, that it drives people away, or that it needs to be swallowed down with a smile to keep the peace. For most of us, this started early on in childhood, where oftentimes feeling anger resulted in punishment or being left alone with our big, overwhelming emotions.
And today? We sometimes still don’t know how to express our boundaries or anger out of a subconscious fear of not being accepted this way or many other reasons. Or maybe we leash out and it escalates and pushes the people we love most away from us.
So here’s the truth: anger is healthy.
It’s not here to destroy you or others, it’s here to protect you.
What hurts us is the suppression of anger or expression which is harmful to yourself or others.
When rage is buried, it turns inward, creating shame, guilt, and even physical pain.
But when anger is allowed to move safely, consciously and with embodiment, it becomes something sacred.
This is called sacred rage: a fire that doesn’t burn the house down, but lights the way forward.
Sacred rage brings clarity. It shows you exactly where your boundaries are and gives you the power to honor them. It’s turning to your inner child, finally acknowledging it, saying:
“What made you so angry? I give you the space you need.”
When you listen to that voice, your inner child will start to feel heard too and your body starts to remember:
My feelings are valid. My voice matters. My boundaries are sacred.
This is where healing can take place. Next we will look at the main reasons why anger comes up in our lives…
Why anger arises
Anger rises in your body for two main reasons:
When someone crosses your boundaries.
When you cross your own boundaries.
If you’ve grown up in an environment where your personal space wasn’t respected, where your “no” was ignored, or where you were punished for expressing big feelings, it’s likely that you never had the chance to learn what embodied boundaries feel like.
Instead, you might have learned to silence yourself. To be the “good kid,” the peacekeeper, the people-pleaser. Somewhere along the way, you may have adopted the belief:
“My voice and my space don’t matter.”
That belief creates a pattern. And years later, it shows up in your body and relationships:
Saying yes when you mean no
Feeling invisible, neglected, or unheard
Walking on eggshells to avoid conflict
Chronic frustration, tension, or resentment
Physical symptoms like teeth grinding, stomach pain, or tightness in your chest
These often psychosomatic symptoms are your body’s way of carrying unexpressed, suppressed anger. You are the only person in your life who holds the power to shift this self destructive patterns. The first step is always looking at it and acknowledging what you feel in your body…
From Pain to Power
“90% of body pain is emotional.”
That may sound bold, but when you look at trauma through the lens of the nervous system, it makes sense.
Pain can act as a protective strategy - your body’s way of keeping you safe from repeating old wounds. But to truly heal, you have to go deeper than logic. You must enter an altered state where energy can move again and where blocked emotions can finally be released.
This is where somatic breathwork, bioenergetics, and emotional release therapy come in. Together, they help you:
Recognize where anger lives in your body
Safely release suppressed emotions
Reprogram old narratives of shame and guilt
Reclaim your right to say NO
Set embodied boundaries that protect your energy
If you feel seen reading this article and you’re struggling with healthy integration of anger - you’re not alone with it. This is exactly why I brought my retreats to life - in our safe group setting of maximum 12 people we use "togetherness” as our superpower to face all of our full spectrum of emotions. I'd be delighted to have you experience true brother- and sisterhood with us and open the door to your most powerful and emotionally embodied version of yourself.
Breath & Power Retreat: Your pathway to relearning expressing Sacred Rage & setting boundaries
At the Breath & Power Retreat (October 16–19, near Berlin), we invite men who are ready to reclaim their power with heart and women ready to reawaken flow with sovereignty.
We’ll be diving into two transformative topics (and so much more):
Sacred Rage: Learn to safely access and express your anger so it becomes a source of clarity and empowerment, not destruction.
Embodied Boundaries: Practice setting and holding clear, healthy boundaries in every area of life.
You will learn how to finally liberate the energy of your emotions, how to activate your nervous system, release emotional blockages, and tap into raw, grounded presence through powerful breathing, movement & massage techniques.
If you’ve been stuck in numbness, people-pleasing, or hypersensitivity… this is your invitation to reconnect with your core essence, to let your inner child be heard, and to reclaim the fire inside you.
It’s time to start seeing anger/sacred rage as your power and pathway sign, instead of your enemy, and boundaries as an embodied way of honoring yourself.
Are you ready to transform pain into power?
This is only one of many topics at our Breath & Power Retreat.
You can find more details here:
